Ewe, ooninawa kunye noodadewabo abazalani kwaphela, ngoko ayinakugqalwa njengento embi okanye engafanelekanga. Akumangalisi ukuba umfana omdala kunye nentombazana, ngaphandle kwamaqabane aqhelekileyo ngokwesondo kwaye phantse yonke imihla ejikeleze enye kwenye, ngequbuliso waziva enomdla kwinqanaba lezesondo omnye komnye. Ukuqwalasela ukuba intombazana iyayithanda (umfana ngoko akukho mbuzo), ndicinga ukuba baya kuqhubeka beqhuba olu hlobo lwento ngamaxesha.
Andazi ngalo bhuti ungadinwayo, ndicinga ukuba wadinwa) Oodade ngokuqinisekileyo bakwi-positive. Indlela ababhaqwe ngayo ngumama wabo nalo bhuti bazimela, yayicingwe kakuhle. Kodwa bathe xa beqhubeka wabe lo mama noba ungubani andimazi ehleli ecaleni kwabo, ndandingaqondi ukuba beyenzela ntoni lonto. Bekumnandi ukubukela, ngakumbi oosisi, ubhuti ebemane engenzi nto kwikliphu, ebengade aboniswe.